Elizabeth Klyne
SHADOW WORK coaching for personal and professional development
Certified Shadow Work Coach and Group Facilitator
Career Development Specialist
Available by Zoom or in person
Please contact Elizabeth on eklyne@me.com or 07801374589
Do you ever find yourself…
Overwhelmed with fear and anxiety when you want to feel calm and at peace
Snapping at loved ones for no good reason when you want to respond with kindness and compassion
Giving up on your own needs to take care of others
Unclear about what you want or how to go about getting it
Feeling frustrated when you can’t get others to listen
Losing focus when you need to follow through
Succumbing to doubt when you need self-assurance
Demonstrating passive-aggressive behaviour when you really want to assert yourself in a clear and powerful way
Stuck in a career rut with no idea how to break out of it
Stuck in a relationship dynamic that you don’t know how to shift
Longing to be different…
Wanting to earn a living by doing what you love
In the grip of unhealthy habits that undermine your health, wellbeing, personal and professional life?
What if all the qualities you could ever need to live the life of your dreams were already available to you, but they were simply hidden away somewhere… and you’d either forgotten all about them, or didn’t know how to access them?
Shadow Work is a process through which your hidden powers can be brought out of the shadows and into the light.
In the face of fear, you can find security and calm
Anger and frustration give access to clear boundaries to protect what matters most to you
When you find true self-worth, you stop needing to impress or care for others and can take care of yourself
When you tame your inner critic, it can become a powerful ally
When you get in touch with your real needs, you can meet them without needing to resort to activities or substances that undermine your wellbeing and success
Shadow Work is the process by which thoughts, feelings and behaviour which are unconscious become conscious. While they are unconscious, we don’t have access to them and have no control over them. Aspects of our personality appear to pop up out of the blue, when we least expect them, and can derail us in unexpected ways. For example, we’re with a friend enjoying a good time together and suddenly find ourselves responding in a mean or unkind way to something they say. After the event, we feel ashamed of ourselves and wonder what on earth happened. We say, “I don’t know what came over me,” or “That was so out of character,” or even, “That wasn’t me at all.” It takes some courage to own up to ourselves that even the unwanted behaviour is part of us. In the moment when we are willing to own that behaviour, we have access to something new. However, there may be some work to do to identify the beliefs that drive that behaviour.
The parts of our psyche that hold those beliefs can then be accessed and given the permission and support to express themselves fully. They can then be fully integrated and become available as resources of energy, expanding the range of possible responses to life and allowing for greater authenticity and maturity. And, as a bonus, energy that has been directed towards keeping these unwanted thoughts, feelings and behaviour at bay becomes available to use in whatever way we choose.
We may discover the positive value in aspects of our personality that we assumed – or were told – were ‘bad’. (For example, anger is often labelled as a ‘negative emotion’, usually because it is powerful and can cause unwanted damage and injury. However, the energy of anger can be harnessed and used for good to protect what we believe in and love and to mobilise us to action where action is needed to move something forward or draw a line under something that needs to end). In addition, we find in ourselves the qualities which we previously looked up to or envied in others, falsely believing that they had something that was missing in us.
Working to integrate your shadow can bring a wide variety of benefits, including:
Improved relationships
Greater authenticity, clarity, compassion and understanding
Improved energy and physical health
A sense of wholeness and greater maturity
Access to your creative potential
Compassion and understanding for ourselves and others
Working with me could benefit you if you:
Want to find a new way to respond to old issues that just keep on repeating
Are at a crossroads in your life and want to create a new direction for yourself
Want to follow the beat of your own drum... and just need a bit of help to quieten the background interference so you can hear it clearly
Are ready and willing to face yourself with honesty and courage
Want a development partner who will walk beside you, always listen to your greatness and challenge your perceived limitations; who is able to go with you wherever you need to go... willing to witness you in your darkest moments so you can find your own spark of light and use it to illuminate a new way forward
I can help you:
Get clear what you really want
Feel more confident
Believe in yourself
Stop beating yourself up and getting in your own way
Be more compassionate and kind to yourself and others
Express yourself clearly and authentically
Revitalise a flagging relationship
Create a new relationship
Stop procrastinating
Improve your resilience
Access your wisdom and creativity
Navigate relationship challenges
Say 'yes' and 'no' when you need to - and mean it!
Find or create a new job or business that you love
Surface and transform the hidden beliefs that may be creating chronic health and weight issues
Enjoy life!
Before becoming a certified Shadow Work practitioner, I ran a career development business, supporting people of all ages and backgrounds to discover their Unique Contribution, and to earn a living while delivering that.
I can offer practical help with CVs, cover letters and UCAS personal statements. I can help you clarify what you have to offer the world and create a job, a role or a business that will allow you to do that in a way that plays to your strengths and delivers the lifestyle you desire.
What it’s like to work with me
I am known for the depth and impact of my work:
“You have had a profound impact on my life...Out of all those I worked with in the UK, you did more for me and my children to guide and shape our future...with powerful effects on my family and my core.” (former CEO, US Investment Bank)
“I am starting to notice profound and permanent changes to how I am able to be more authentic and take my own side.”
“Our regular conversations have helped me keep my head out of the water while I thought I was drowning...”
“I've never felt so safe.”
“If I don't sound more excited, it's because I'm pretty much in awe of the change - I feel like a different person!”
“I can't thank you enough for the insight, guidance and encouragement you provided in supporting me through such an intense and deeply personal experience. I feel different. I have a deep inner peace that I've not felt before. I feel more connected to myself and to others. You are gifted and amazing.”
“You helped me so much - I can’t even explain it in words. I feel like you are a warrior of fine skill, detail, knowledge and care and absolute courage – I’ve never felt so safe to dive into my self-sabotage in that way.”
“For me, that is true love: to witness someone in their darkest moments and go all the way with them until they find their own spark of light. I cannot express how grateful I am for this healing grace.”
Results
“I know where I am and what's next for me”
“More confidence”
“A way forward I feel I can follow through without burning out”
“Huge changes in my perception of my own worth and the worth of other people... which makes it easier to recognise the strengths of friends and colleagues without being threatened by them... which in turn makes it easier to accept help”
“You've helped me to clarify and own what I want to do with my life”
“I'm now absolutely clear about what I want to do and how to set about achieving that goal... new opportunities have already opened up...”
“My work is going really well and I am being celebrated and congratulated by one and all. It's great!”
“An open heart”
“Enjoying a sense of feeling lighter and with more energy available.”
“A rekindled enjoyment of life”
“A comfort in sitting with recent grief”
“A sense of strength and empowerment which is growing, and less guilt, obligation and shame”
“My confidence has grown enormously. I have far more peace of mind and I no longer panic about the future.”
Contact me at eklyne@me.com or on 07801 374589
For further information about Shadow Work, visit www.shadowwork.com
For background reading about working with the shadow:
https://scottjeffrey.com/psychological-projection/
https://scottjeffrey.com/shadow-work/